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7 Ways to Build Trust in a Relationship
Do you know there are 7 "never fail" ways to trust is built in a relationship? Often, when we think about what it is that makes a relationship work our first thoughts are wrong. For instance, we think that we need to spice things up. That is NOT true! Stability is more important than variety in a relationship. The following seven methods are guaranteed to improve your connection by enhancing the level of trust you have with your partner.
First, you need to be predictable and create a stable atmosphere. This goes against the common misconception that we need to "spice it up" to keep the romance alive. Please understand, that having a date night or surprising your partner with flowers are nice, but consistency,stability and predictability are what we need in order to make our relationships strong. Consider that trust in a relationship is built on being reliable day in and day out.
Next, you need to make sure that what you are saying is always the message you want to portray. This means that your partner needs to hear the words and it needs to match your body language. Think about it, if you say that nothing is wrong but you are frowning, your partner doesn't hear your words, he or she sees your face and listens to the tone of your voice. They needs to be able to trust what you are saying. When the words match the message,trust is built in a relationship.
Third, you need to believe your partner's competency. If you don't, there is not the trust that you need. When you are able to have healthy communication, t will never be destructive. Truth is always healthy. If you do not believe that your partner is competent at some things (or anything), you violate the trust in a relationship.
Don't keep secrets. Secrets can destroy the trust in the best relationships. Always be open and honest. Realize right now, that everything you know or do will eventually come out. The energy that is needed to keep your secrets could be the energy you can use in building your relationship. Secrets require alot of energy.
Fifth, verbalize your needs. Let your partner know what you want and need. Don' t make him or her guess . Let them know. Self-centered and selfish are totally different. It is OK to be self-centered but never be selfish.
Sixth, learn to say no. You do not have to say yes every time your partner voices his or her wants or needs. You will not gain any respect if you never say no. Refusing to give in to the other person (sometimes)actually can build trust in a relationship.
Finally, keep positive and look for growth in your relationship. You know when you plant a flower, you have to start by digging in the dirt. Digging in and recognizing the dirt of our relationships can sometimes cause alot of pain, but don't be afraid of turmoil, crisis, or the questions that will come up. Embrace what is difficult. These will become the fertilizer for growth and change.
Deciding to work on the "trust in your relationship", and dealing with the pain that you will encounter along the way, can make you stronger as a person. And being a stronger person can also strengthen your relationship.
The Magic of Making Up "The Magic of Making Up"
For more information: www.marriageandyourkids.com
www.marriageandyourkids.com
The Magic of Making Up
First, you need to be predictable and create a stable atmosphere. This goes against the common misconception that we need to "spice it up" to keep the romance alive. Please understand, that having a date night or surprising your partner with flowers are nice, but consistency,stability and predictability are what we need in order to make our relationships strong. Consider that trust in a relationship is built on being reliable day in and day out.
Next, you need to make sure that what you are saying is always the message you want to portray. This means that your partner needs to hear the words and it needs to match your body language. Think about it, if you say that nothing is wrong but you are frowning, your partner doesn't hear your words, he or she sees your face and listens to the tone of your voice. They needs to be able to trust what you are saying. When the words match the message,trust is built in a relationship.
Third, you need to believe your partner's competency. If you don't, there is not the trust that you need. When you are able to have healthy communication, t will never be destructive. Truth is always healthy. If you do not believe that your partner is competent at some things (or anything), you violate the trust in a relationship.
Don't keep secrets. Secrets can destroy the trust in the best relationships. Always be open and honest. Realize right now, that everything you know or do will eventually come out. The energy that is needed to keep your secrets could be the energy you can use in building your relationship. Secrets require alot of energy.
Fifth, verbalize your needs. Let your partner know what you want and need. Don' t make him or her guess . Let them know. Self-centered and selfish are totally different. It is OK to be self-centered but never be selfish.
Sixth, learn to say no. You do not have to say yes every time your partner voices his or her wants or needs. You will not gain any respect if you never say no. Refusing to give in to the other person (sometimes)actually can build trust in a relationship.
Finally, keep positive and look for growth in your relationship. You know when you plant a flower, you have to start by digging in the dirt. Digging in and recognizing the dirt of our relationships can sometimes cause alot of pain, but don't be afraid of turmoil, crisis, or the questions that will come up. Embrace what is difficult. These will become the fertilizer for growth and change.
Deciding to work on the "trust in your relationship", and dealing with the pain that you will encounter along the way, can make you stronger as a person. And being a stronger person can also strengthen your relationship.
The Magic of Making Up "The Magic of Making Up"
For more information: www.marriageandyourkids.com
www.marriageandyourkids.com
The Magic of Making Up
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